I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what actually is considered sex. When somebody asks, “Did you have sex,” what constitutes a yes or no response. Intercourse or penetration, I think everyone would agree is a yes reply. But what about the grey areas of foreplay both oral and hand exploration? So I decided to look up the definition. Try googling that one! I came up with this recent survey:
The study, published in the February issue of the journal Sexual Health, randomly surveyed 486 adults, most of them heterosexual, between the ages of 18 and 96. They were asked the following question: “Would you say you ‘had sex’ with someone if the most intimate behavior you engaged in was [blank],” and then followed more than a dozen “behavior specific items.” A press release reports that “two out of ten people did not concur that penile-anal intercourse was sex, and three out of ten said ‘no’ to oral-genital activity, as did half of the respondents about manual-genital contact.” And, while 95 percent classified penile-vaginal penetration as sex (one has to wonder what does count for the remaining 5 percent), that number dropped to 89 percent in cases where the man doesn’t ejaculate.
Boy, they sure make that sound boring. This is what WikiAnswers has to say:
the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; the man’s penis is inserted into the woman’s vagina and excited/stimulated with motion, until orgasm for one or both and ejaculation occurs.
So if sensual massage involves only hand manipulation and has nothing to do with insertion why is it illegal? I think Bill Clinton would agree with the above definitions, along with most Americans. So my dear readers, what is your definition of sex?